The objective is always the same: to find the one. We take risks and subject ourselves to the rules of a game set by some unknown entity … Why? Shouldn’t dating be as simple as knowing what we want and just going after it? Yes, it should be. But there’s a catch. For very selfish commercial reasons, our new love and dating teachers, the mainstream media, only wants us to learn about the “happily ever after,” and about how painful getting to that point has to be. Focusing only on those two outcomes programs us to believe that dating is nothing but a game.